Angry words. Terrifying threats. Vicious disrespect. But, no cuts, burns or bruises that would say to the world “LOOK!!! LOOK at what happens behind the closed doors of our home!!!”  Can it be abuse if they never put their hands on you?
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For years I remember wishing for the bruise, the swollen eye, the broken jaw. Why? Because through all those years, our “perfect little family” was being destroyed by his rage, but no one would believe that such a charming man could be anything but charming.
Today, medical research is proving how emotional stress causes physical disease, including hypertension, heart disease, ulcers, colitis, and in my case, cancer.Fear. Grief. Anger. Rage. These not only break your heart. They break your body…whether or not he touches you. In other words, your body was not created to handle a life of walking on egg shells. So, when you live in fear, your body simply begins to shut down.Abuse of any kind is ALL about POWER and CONTROL. Abuse of any kind is the way an insecure, broken man bluffs you into submission. Please, precious sister, never accept the tearing apart of your soul just because you aren’t being physically harmed…because you are. Even better, why not ask yourself the one fundamental question, “Is he WORTHY of Me?” and then listen as you soul speaks to you the answer you already know.YOU are Worthy. Blessed be.

Chapter 18 “Mr. Right Versus Mr. ALWAYS Right ~ The Joy of Narcissism, aka ‘King ME.”
On Becoming NaughtABimbeaux ~ The Smart Woman’s Guide to Finding Her Prince Without Ever Kissing Another Frog